Single In Silicon Valley: A Holiday Romance

Would you advertise for a holiday romance on Craigslist? Someone did! Sad state or great idea?

A friend of mine posted a link on her Facebook page recently.  While I am an avid believer of "no clicking on links," this one I felt compelled to.  The link was to a Craigslist ad that someone placed called "Wanted: Holiday Girlfriend."

In short, the young man from the Mission District wants you to recognize that "deep down inside, you don’t want to be alone for the holidays."  He asks for a photo and a brief bio (250 words max). After meeting up for coffee and are both "feeling it, we’ll date until 11:59pm, January 2, 2012." He even lists the benefits of the arrangement, including taking photos and avoiding holiday music together.

Don’t get me wrong: I’m not here to judge. While I find humor in it, I can also understand why he’s doing it and can appreciate his honesty (given the benefit of the doubt). Plus, if you have posted and/or answered an ad on any online dating service, you can’t judge either!

So, dear readers, would you engage in a temporary romance? What would be the benefits of the person that decided to do this with you? What requirements would you have? For the sake of discussion, I’ve come up with a couple:


  • I’m not clingy.  I can hold my own at a party, so I won’t feel the need to be attached at the hip to you. I know dudes hate that.
  • I have an eclectic and diverse life story. I make for great conversation and entertainment.


  • You need to be a bit of a social butterfly yourself. I’m not clingy, so you can’t be either.
  • You can’t tell anyone how we met! Okay, maybe your brother, but that’s about it.

Play along with me.  Come up with a couple of your own and post in Comments.

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Diana Bautista December 01, 2011 at 06:35 PM
A temporary bf for the holidays doesn't sound too bad especially if their schedule is as crazy as mine- this could be fun. LOL Other than some rules, the B&R's are: Benefits: 1) varied interests- whether the evening is academic, casual, formal, sports, I can definitely hold my own. 2) I have a great sense of humor, so there's an excellent chance that I'll laugh at your jokes. 3) I go with the flow. If there's a boss or a friend you're trying to impress, I'll help or play along with whatever "little white lie" you say. As long as it's not outrageous. And even then I won't judge. Requirements: 1) You have to at least own one decent suit. I must approve. 2) You can't be too shy at social events, but please no loud frat guy stuff. 3) Have a good sense of humor. 4) since this is for the holidays only- I hope you actually enjoy the Holiday season or at least not be a Grinch.
randy albin December 01, 2011 at 10:17 PM
the singles scene around mountain view really needs to improve. forget the singles matches online. it's holiday time-get your singles selves out there and meet more singles!
Alicia C. December 03, 2011 at 03:24 AM
Update: the original Craigslist post was flagged and removed, but ended up on the Best Of Craigslist: http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/sfo/2703020265.html He also has a Twitter account: HolidayBF That's what I call determination!
Claudia Cruz (Editor) December 05, 2011 at 10:12 PM
Being single during the holidays is definitely a bummer, but mostly because there are so many events and it feels not very cool to show up alone. But I do see some benefits to it! Benefits: (1) I'm a good conversationalist, so whether its sports, politics or reality tv shows, I can keep a mind intrigued and interested. (2) I'm mature and won't get caught up in feelings. It's just temporary! (3) I can dance to pretty much anything. (4) I can make a great party date (along the lines of Diana's comment up above). Requirements: (1) Must be okay with hand-holding or interlocking arms. That's so romantic!. (2) Must be clean-shaven and own a pair of dress shoes. I'm okay with jeans and shoes but not jeans and sneakers if we go out. (3) Must be fun and witty. Are those too many requirements for a temporary romance?


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