Single In Silicon Valley: Have Some Fun Already!

It’s been a while since I’ve last blogged. However, it has been a busy few weeks.

Sometime between organizing three major work events and having a friend from the Midwest visit for a two-week stretch, I managed to squeeze in an evening to celebrate my birthday. As someone who is used to having a leisurely week of said birthday, I was busier than I had been in a long time.

Now I’ve had time to catch my breath, get my bearings and think about the little snippets of conversations here and there that I could remember. In the midst of my chaotic schedule, I managed to dodge the “I can’t believe you’re still single—you’re such a great person” conversations and shoot down the rumors that a couple of male friends of mine were really more than that. In hindsight, I think the crazy schedule saved me!

Some friends, single or otherwise, shared about recent Meetups they’ve attended and suggested I try going to a few. I have nothing against the concept; I’ve learned that I’m not a joiner. I’m much more open to attending one-off events as opposed to something longer term or that meets more than once in a while. I can handle quarterly, maybe. I love to go to events, but I like variety. Social fundraiser: I am there! Concert at or the Mountain Winery: absolutely!

So now I am feeling ambitious. I want to plan an event. One where you actually dress up! Bachelor/Bachelorette auction? Masquerade Ball? See, I told you I’m feeling ambitious. 

The reality is that whatever I end up planning, it won’t be a grand event. I just want to have something where you can have an enjoyable time, whether you leave by yourself or not. Because, at the end of the day, as a Single in Silicon Valley, shouldn’t you have fun without it hinging on a potential mate?

Which takes me back to my birthday. No trips to South Lake Tahoe or even South Padre Island. Nope, I had a wine party at , which I made into a fundraiser for a local nonprofit. It was fun, it was social, friends from different circles connected with each other and new friendships were created. That’s the type of event I like to attend. Maybe, just maybe, one of those new friendships I create will become something more—but in the meantime, I’m still having fun.